McIvor Family History

Graham, Howell, McIvor/McIver, Schnurr, Steen, Williams…& related families

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by Wilson E. McIvor

“That game with the fifteen numbered balls is the devil’s tool”

Music Man, 1962

Royal Pittman McIvor, born 1876, was the son of Hugh Eugene McIvor and Elizabeth McCaul.  He inherited his somewhat unusual name from grandfather Royal McCaul and on the other side he was the grandson of Christoper McIver, sometimes called “Old Kit”.  Kit had moved into Lynchburg from Bedford County about 1830 when he was young Kit, married into the Halsey family and managed to do well for himself in business and property. He lived for a time on his property in Amherst County where he sold a right of way to the Orange and Alexandria Railroad and had a station on the property with “McIvor” on it.  In 1905, three stops were combined and created Monroe, of which half the land had once belonged to Kit. Kit died December 19, 1882 when Roy was six years old. While owning considerable land in Amherst County, Kit was more a citizen of Lynchburg than Amherst and his obituary lists him as “the oldest inhabitant of the city, save one”.

On December 15, 1894, when Roy was 18 years old, his father Eugene was killed in a hunting incident. James Monroe Watts was with Hugh Eugene, reported the incident, and a few months later would become Roy’s stepfather. When he was 23, Roy was living with his extended family and listed as a “call boy” on the railroad, essentially a messenger boy rounding up train crews for runs.

Royal’s uncle, William Daniel, had served in the Amherst Battery with George Frederick Steen. Whether it was through that association or another, Royal met and became enamored with George Steen’s daughter, Carrie Elizabeth, and while Carrie evidently shared the feelings, her family objected.  Could it be possible that the objection was over Roy being a call boy, or perhaps he had recently acquired a billiard room? The oldest of Carrie’s siblings was Walter Clarence who had a strong role in the family and was known to be straight laced. Though his sister Carrie said he used to chew, Clarence did not smoke, did not drink, and did not cuss; chances are he didn’t play pool either. Later, he would be the registrar in Monroe for many years. He and Royal were the same age.

Whatever the source of contention, Roy and Carrie went to North Carolina to be married. Jim Ford, Roy’s brother-in-law, was one of the witnesses on December 22, 1903. Almost exactly a year later, they would have a girl, Annie Elizabeth. A month more than a year after that, January 1906, the baby died; another month and a son was born followed two years later by a daughter.

The year on the calendar in the pool hall photo is difficult to read but the picture of Taft and February ending on Sunday is fair proof that it is 1909. The man in the picture would be about thirty three years old, the father of two, and apparently successfully running a two table billiard room decorated with Gibson Girl pin ups, a photo of president elect Taft, a couple of ads, a tableau of world famous billiard players produced by Brunswick-Balke-Collender Company, and, to his upper left, a badge shaped chalk weight also by BBC hangs from a cord over the table (close up below). A hand lettered sign is just above his head in front of the billiard wizards.

Billiard Experts of the World poster similar to the one seen in the Frank Cash photograph at the top of this post.


Chalk weight

Roy and Carrie had recently finished building a traditional two over two farm house and would have a second son in 1910. A 1915 picture shows the three children carefully dressed and healthy, another son would be born in 1917.

In the third draft registration for World War I held on September 12, 1918, all men between the ages of 18 and 45 were required to register.  On his form, Royal indicated his occupation as “billiard room.”  In 1920, he had a pass from Southern Railway indicating he is a “Storehouse Laborer”.  For Roy, a man in his mid forties, this was not an upward career move.

The following is the story Royal’s son, R. C. McIvor, told me, his son:

Three men including Papa had all purchased the same model .38 revolver. 

One night they’d all been drinking, there was a row in the billiard room loud enough to be heard up and down the street. A man named Hub Shelton vowed he was going to go in and straighten it out. When he went in the hall, the lights went out and three guns were fired. When the lights were put back on, a man had been shot. It wasn’t clear whose gun did it. Uncle Chris and Dr. Scott got together and hushed it up.

“Uncle Chris” was Christopher Earl McIvor, Royal P. McIvor’s uncle, the operator of a grocery store close to the pool hall, pretty much the head of the family at that time. Uncle Chris was able to “hush it up” because everyone involved was either family or step family. The man who was shot is said to have been Royal’s step brother and probably shot by one of Roy’s cousins.  Apparently the wounded man was successfully treated and eventually recovered, and Uncle Chris told everyone to keep it in the family.

It wasn’t that simple for Royal. He checked himself into the mental hospital at Staunton and stayed there for a little while, probably wanting to avoid a whole lot of pesky questions, like “who shot who”?

R. C. McIvor said, Papa was gone for a long time. Then one night I was in bed and I heard someone whistling “whip poor will” coming down the hill. I was happy because I knew papa had come home.

Roy had walked home from Staunton.

Likely the shooting was not an isolated incident; Carrie insisted that the Billiard Room be shut down. At an advanced age, Royal got a job on Southern Railway. He worked regularly and faithfully at low end jobs, most with the word “helper” in them and retired in 1947 on $65 a month, dying in 1953. Sadly, I only knew him as an old man with cataracts, not the man with the sassy cocked bowler hat and tie with the Prince Albert knot. I did not recognize until much later that I had played in the barn with the parts of disassembled pool tables around me. My dad, R. C. McIvor, used the slate tops for a patio.

Later my brother acquired the old home place and renovated it. He found six .38 shells thrown in the attic space over the kitchen.

One of them had been fired.

Trouble, with a Capital “T”

And that Rhymes with “P”

And that Stands for POOL

Music Man, 1962

This article is copyrighted 2018 by Wilson E. McIvor and was first published in The Muse, the newsletter of the Amherst County Museum & Historical Society. Used with permission.

The Frank Cash photograph of Roy in the pool hall is used with permission of the Amherst County Museum and Historical Society






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John Black Graham

John Black Graham (1822-1912) is my 3rd great uncle. His younger brother, Francis Dailor Lafayette Graham (1830-1912), is my great-great grandfather. John is well known to this day as one of the most famous duck decoy makers of the upper Chesapeake Bay. Recently Gerard William “Rod” Wittstadt, Jr., Esquire, published his online book “Cecil County Decoys”. Rod worked many years researching his subject and has done a remarkable job. I am very thankful that Rod has given me permission to publish here word for word Chapter 9 of that book. While this chapter focuses on John B. Graham in particular, it also provides an excellent history of my ancestors on my mother’s side, the Grahams of Cecil County, Maryland.

Any notations in the text in brackets [like this] are my words, and are not part of the original chapter. This material is copyrighted 2017 by Mr. Wittstadt.

To see the whole book, or to contact Mr. Wittstadt directly, please visit his website at:

Charlestown, Maryland 1862. John Black Graham would have been forty (40) years of age, having been born in Charlestown on September 5, 1822, the son of Zachariah Butcher Graham and Rebecca Lewis [My 3rd great-grandparents/Warren]. It is fair to say that by his fortieth birthday, John B. Graham had achieved success in Charlestown; at that time having succeeded his father in business after his death in 1854. Like his father before him, and his father’s father, John B. Graham was a carpenter, cabinet maker, and undertaker. John B. Graham was also a duck decoy maker. By the time of the Civil War, the making of decoys in Charlestown to support the market hunting on the North East River and Susquehanna Flats was in full production, and John B. Graham was the prominent maker, although he was not the first decoy maker in Charlestown, that distinction is held by Thomas E. Burnsides, who was making “stools” as early as 1836 in Charlestown.

John B. Graham’s grandfather was William Graham [My 4th great-grandfather/Warren], who was born in Chester County, Pennsylvania in 1754. He moved to Charlestown in 1777, and appears in the Census of 1790 living in Charlestown with his family. William Graham’s first wife was Sarah Oldham, who died sometime after 1789 but before 1793. William and Sarah Graham had four (4) children: Casandra Graham (Jenkins) (b. 9/13/1777 d. 9/23/1832); Samuel Graham (b. 5/12/1779); Zachariah Butcher Graham (b. 7/1/1781 d. 1854); and Sarah Graham (Severson) (b. 12/15/1789 d. 1/3/1832).

William Graham’s second wife was Lydia Brown, whose parents were Rebecca (b.1745 d. 9/25/1809) and Jesse Brown (b.1744 d. 9/18/1823). Together, William and Lydia Graham had seven (7) children: Margaret Graham (b.8/30/1794); Hannah Graham (b.11/17/1776); William E.G. Graham (b. 1/26/1799 d. 4/30/1847); Rachel Graham (b. 6/26/1801 d. 5/27/1827); Mary Ann Graham (Richardson) (b.3/23/1804 d. 11/24/1887); Ellis C. Graham (b. 5/16/1807); and Rebecca Graham (Diffenderfer) (b. 12/30/1809 d. 9/8/1832).

John B. Graham’s father, Zachariah B. Graham married Rebecca Lewis on April 29, 1806. Her parents were Thomas Lewis and Catherine Cunningham, who sister Mary Ann Cunningham married Zachariah’s half-brother, William E. G. Graham. Zachariah and Rebecca Lewis had eleven (11) children: Barratt Graham; George Washington Graham; A. Lewis Graham (b. 6/18/1807 d. 10/19/1832); William Graham; Sarah Graham (b. 1822); Mary Ann Graham (b. 1819); Alfred Zachariah Graham (b. 1829 d. 4/20/1893); Evaline Graham (b. 2/19/1820); John Black Graham (b. 9/5/1822 d. 12/7/1912); Francis Dailor Lafayette Graham (b. 1929 d. 3/21/1912); and Charles Carroll Graham (b. 6/30/1826 d. 1/10/1907).

On June 25, 1845, John B. Graham married Elizabeth Cooper. Their only child was John Cooper Graham (b. 4/3/1845 d. 4/2/1931). Elizabeth Cooper died on November 4, 1846, and thereafter John B. Graham remarried on March 4, 1850. His second wife was Caroline M. Richardson (b. 8/29/1829 d. 10/3/1920). That union resulted in the birth of three (3) children: Rebecca Graham (b. 5/6/1851 d. 9/20/1852); Elizabeth Helen Graham (Mattingley) (b. 11/19/1853 d. 11/9/1941); and William Henry Graham (b. 1/15/1856 d. 8/11/1903).

The earliest document of record referring to John B. Graham is the 1850 Census, in which his occupation is listed as a carpenter. It is interesting to note that by 1850, John B. Graham’s first wife had died, although his son. John Cooper Graham, who in 1850 was five (5) years of age was living with Mary Graham, the widow of John B. Graham’s brother William E.G. Graham.

At about 1853, just before the death of his father, John B. Graham began his undertakers’ business in Charlestown. The Methodists, until the dedication of the present church in town, had used a frame building at the corner of Caroline and Bladen Streets for their meeting. That building was sold to John B. Graham were he continued his undertakers’ business until about 1895. That building burned in 1932.

In the 1870 Census, John B. Graham is listed as a “cabinet maker.” His wife, Caroline and each of his three (3) children are with him at home, as is his brother, Alfred Zachariah Graham. Interestingly, a fourteen (14) year old Negro girl, Cornelia Johnson, who is listed as a “house keeper” is also living in the household. John C. Graham, who in 1870 was twenty-five (25) years old is listed as a carpenter, and is still living at home.

In the 1878 publication of The Maryland Directory, published by J. Frank Lewis & Co. of Baltimore, John B. Graham and his brother Francis D. L. Graham [My 2nd great-grandfather/Warren] are both listed as carpenters in Charlestown, and John B. Graham is also listed as an undertaker. The publication, in addition to listing the various patrons from Charlestown and their occupation, describes Charlestown as: “Is near a station on the P. W. & B. R. R. Of that name, 40 miles from Baltimore. It is beautifully [sic] located on the west bank of the North East River, and commands a picturesque view of the Chesapeake Bay for over 20 miles. It is regularly laid out into streets and squares, and is one of the most pleasant locations in the State for a town. You can in almost any part take in at a glance the North East, Elk , Sassafras and Susquehanna Rivers, with their hundreds of sails. It is healthy at all seasons; the farms are highly productive and worked by intelligent and enterprising men; fishing is carried on to a considerable extent from the waters in the vicinity which abound in fish of several varieties. The land is clay and sandy loam, principally cleared; can be bought at from $25 to $40 per acre, and yields 20 bus wheat, 50 oats, 100 potatoes, 40-50 corn, and 1 1/2 tons hey. M. E. Church, Rev. Samuel Logan. Public School, Geo. S. Mattingley and Miss Jennie Killough, teachers. Population 250. Wm. T. Richardson, Postmaster.”

Two (2) years later in the 1880 Census, John B. Graham is still making cabinets in Charlestown. The Graham’s house keeper, Cornelia Johnson, has had a child, Charles, who is two (2) years old; and George S. Mattingley, a twenty-seven (27) year-old school teacher is living with the rest of the family. Alfred Zachariah Graham, too, is living in his brother’s home.

On October 20, 1881, Helen Graham and George S. Mattingley (b. 12/12/1850 d. 1/28/1925) were married at the home of John B. Graham in Charlestown. The Elkton, Maryland based newspaper, the Cecil Whig announced the wedding:

On Thursday, the 20th inst., a bright and cheerful day, a pleasant party invited for the occasion were assembled to witness the marriage ceremony of Mr. George S. Mattingley, the gentlemanly Principal of the public school at Warwick, and Miss Helen Graham, the accomplished daughter of Mr. John B. Graham of Charlestown, in this county. The guests, friends and relatives of the family were from Wilmington, Del., Rising Sun and other places, and to the number of twenty couples were assembled in the parlor. At one o’clock the hour appointed for the ceremony, the bridal party, preceded by Miss Kate B. Richardson and W. H. Graham, the cousin and brother of the bride entered the room. The bride looking very sweet and handsome was tastefully dressed in silk, decorated with a few choice and beautiful natural flowers. The ceremony was performed by Rev. Mr. Hammersley, pastor of Charlestown Circuit assisted by Rev. J. D. Kemp, of Rising Sun. After the accustomed congratulations were over, all were seated at the splendid banquet, to which they did ample honor, and at its close the bride and groom took their departure for Baltimore, on their wedding tour, and the guests to their several homes. No more happy and joyous occasion has been witnessed in Charlestown for years.” Continue reading

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The Battle of the Wilderness, William McIver & George Steen…

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On May 5th, 1864, exactly one hundred and fifty-two years ago today, this tranquil field witnessed the beginning of a bloody and chaotic 3-day conflict known as the Battle of the Wilderness. This battle began when Confederate troops led by General Richard Ewell clashed with the Union’s 5th Corps at Saunders Field on both sides of the Orange Turnpike, present day Virginia Route 20. The fierce fighting spread to the forest, at that time thick with dense undergrowth, making organization and orderly maneuvers impossible. Fighting at close quarters in the dense smoke, it was difficult to tell friend from foe, and many infantrymen became separated from their units in the desperate clash. Rifle bursts and exploding shells ignited fires that trapped and killed many of the wounded. At the end of the day on May 7th, the battle was stalemated. The cost: nearly 30,000 total casualties, Confederate and Union combined.

My great-grandfather, Private George Frederick Steen, and my 2nd great-uncle, Private William Daniel McIver, served with Captain Thomas Kirkpatrick’s Amherst Artillery during this tragic event.


The dense undergrowth of the forest and the nature of the terrain made it impossible for effective artillery deployment. Although no journals or letters written by George or William are known to exist, we can get a sense of what they experienced from the diary of a fellow artilleryman, Private Henry Robinson Berkeley of Hanover, Virginia. Continue reading

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1st Mystery Photo Identified: Susanna Reynolds Howell

After posting three articles and scores of unknown photos of my Graham and Howell ancestors, I am happy to announce that one of the photos has been identified! Through I met my 3rd cousin, Suzanne Grimes, who has a number of 19th century Howell photos. Her grandmother, Beatrice Howell Johnson, had the foresight to write, “Grandmother Howell wife of Augustus Nolan Howell” on the back of this cabinet card.

May I present Susanna Reynolds Howell, my great-great grandmother:SusanahReynoldsHowell

Susanna’s parents were John and Sarah Mary Reynolds. According to her death certificate, Susanna was born November 17, 1841, in Elkton, Maryland. However, the 1880 and 1890 census records show her birth year as 1844 and place of birth as Delaware. Could it be that she fudged the dates on the census in order to appear to be only 3 months older than her husband (rather than 3 years and 3 months older)? Continue reading

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Unidentified Graham & Howell Photos #3: Cabinet Cards

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Most of the images in my collection of unknown photos are cabinet cards. Although introduced in England in 1866, cabinet cards did not become popular in the United States until the late 1870’s. If my dating estimates are close, the cards in this collection date from the mid 1880’s and later.

Photo paper in the late century was thin and subject to curling, so the photographer would mount the picture on a stiff card measuring usually 4¼ by 6½ inches, considerably larger than tintypes andThe cabinet card’s name probably derived from the fact that these larger cards could be displayed on a cabinet and seen from across the room, unlike their smaller predecessors.

The card itself evolved over time from very plain to quite elegant and included different colors, edges, borders, and fancy artwork advertising the studio. These attributes are used to determine the approximate dates the photos were taken. I estimated the dates attached to the photos in this gallery using the card designs and the guidelines in 19th Century Card Photos Kwik Guide by Gary W. Clark. Hair styles and clothing fashion are also used to date photos, but I found this difficult and confusing. That method I will leave to the experts. The date of one photo however I am sure of because someone took the time to write it on the back. Continue reading

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Unidentified Graham & Howell Photos #2: Tintypes

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The tintype photograph, patented in the United States in 1856, was the first photographic process that nearly everyone could afford. It was hugely popular during the Civil War and photographers in their covered wagons would follow military units and provide these inexpensive pictures for the soldiers to send home to their families. Their loved ones also would reciprocate and sent their sons, husbands and fathers tintype photos from home.

While most popular from the late 1850’s thru the 1870’s, tintypes continued to be produced into the early 20th century.  The tintype photo is a direct positive on a thin sheet of iron (not tin!) coated with a dark lacquer. These were very resilient, did not need drying, and could be handed to the customer just a few minutes after the photo was taken.

Tintypes are difficult to date precisely. Clothing, hair style and props are one method to get an approximate time frame. There were 20 or so tintypes in the mysterious box of unknown photos of my Howell and Graham ancestors from Cecil County, Maryland. For more about these photos please see Unidentified Graham & Howell Photos #1. I think most of the photos in my collection are from the 1860’s and 1870’s. Continue reading

Unidentified Graham & Howell Photos #1

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Occasionally totally awesome and unexpected good fortune occurs while researching family history. This happened to me this past summer, but as you will see, this particular good fortune is both sweet and bitter. Earlier this year I met Mr. Charles Murphy on and we exchanged a few messages. Charles sent me a box of old photos of my Graham and Howell ancestors.  It was an amazing experience to open and look through the approximately 125 photographs including cartes de visite, tintypes and many cabinet cards, most dating to the late 1800’s.

That’s the very “sweet” part. The “bitter” part is that very very few are labeled! I have no idea who they are! Charles said that a number of them had originally been rubber banded together and labeled “Howell” but the rubber band disintegrated over the years and those cards are no longer distinguishable from the others. View the pictures →

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Jonathan James Graham (1865-1927)

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My great-grandfather, Jonathan James Graham, was born in Charlestown, Cecil County, Maryland, October 22, 1865, the same year the Civil War ended. He was the 5th of 8 children of Francis Dailor Lafayette Graham and Elizabeth A. Rutter. The Grahams of Charlestown were cabinet makers, boat builders, carpenters, undertakers, and duck decoy makers. The 1880 US census lists Jonathan’s father Lafayette as a boat builder and the 1882 Charlestown directory lists him as a carpenter. Continue reading

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Christopher McIver, Part 1

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The founder of the McIver/McIvor families in Amherst County, Virginia, was undoubtedly Christopher McIver who may have been the one to generally shift the spelling of the name to McIvor though there have been earlier examples. At some point, whether affectionately or not, he became known as “Old Kit” and there were several family myths about him. One prominent one was that he was “born on the boat coming over”, another was “he owned half of Monroe” and yet another was that he died a very wealthy man. There may be a kernel of truth in each myth but basically they are incorrect. His year of birth is also unclear. By oral history he was born in 1805 while census records indicate he was born in 1807 or 1808, but he was absolutely born in what was then Campbell County, now Appomattox County, to Daniel and Elizabeth Bass McIver. Continue reading

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The Grahams of Charlestown

This is an article written by C. John Sullivan Jr. It was published in the July/August 1997 issue of Decoy Magazine (pages 8-13) and in Mr. Sullivan’s book Waterfowling on the Chesapeake 1819-1936 (pages 157-162) published in 2003 by the John Hopkins University Press. The Decoy Magazine article and the chapter in the book are essentially the same. The following is a transcription from the book with two added paragraphs from the magazine article that were not included in the book. My thanks to both Decoy Magazine and Mr Sullivan for permission to include their work on this website.

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Why I have I included this article in our family history website? The first Graham mentioned is William, my 4th great-grandfather. His son Zachariah would of course be my 3rd great-grandfather and Zachariah’s son John Black Graham is my 3rd great uncle. John’s brother Lafayette is my grandfather’s grandfather.  Continue reading